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20 Tips on How to Communicate with Your Child Effectively

In this video, we’re going to talk about communicating with your child effectively, and we’re happy to share 20 ways on how to do this! Positive Parenting requires parents to act empathetically and logically, avoiding irritability and aggressiveness. This sets a great example for their children to follow. Children learn their behavior by watching those closest to them, so make sure the example you are setting is a good one. As parents, it is important to be mindful of how we talk to our kids – this is because our way of speaking has a great impact on their ability to listen. How we communicate with them shows them how we would like them to respond to us. To kick things off, let’s have a look at the three different communication styles that parents unconsciously use when communicating with their children. 3 Different Ways Parents Communicate With Their Kids #1 Aggressively Aggressive parents yell a lot and use attacking or negative words. For example: “I’m sick and tired of seeing your untidy room. Why are you too lazy to clean up after yourself? That’s it! I’m throwing out all your things and you’re grounded!” A parent using this style refuses to listen to the child’s point of view at all and is typically harsh, angry, and cold. When children hear aggressive words, they respond by acting out more, feeling fearful, yelling back, and ignoring their parents’ orders. #2 Passively Parents with this style go to the complete opposite extreme. They are afraid to upset their children and so speak to them weakly and unassertively. For example: “Oh sweetie, I see that you haven’t tidied up your stuff. I guess you were too busy with to tidy up. I’ll clean your room for you so that it will be easy to find everything next time.” This parent does not hold the child accountable for tidying up his room and does not show herself to be the authority figure at home. Children who are at the receiving end of passive words walk all over their parents. They learn not to respect their parents. The child just has too much power at home. #3 Assertively So far, assertive communication is the most effective way to interact with kids at all levels. For example: “Sweetie, I see that your room is still a mess. It really bothers me that I can’t count on you to be responsible for your things. We need to come up with a plan on tidying up your room. Until we can agree on that plan, there will be no internet access for now.” Assertive parents are willing to listen and yet still hold firm so that both the parent’s and the child’s needs are met. The child is given an opportunity to participate in finding a solution. Assertive words - firm, consistent, and positive ones – help your kids to realize the importance of always listening to Mom and Dad. Assertive communication is an example of Authoritative Parenting. You can learn more about that in our video about the 5 common parenting styles. Which communication style do you think you have? Knowing which style you have will help you to know where you can make adjustments in carrying out the following 20 tips on how to improve your communication with your children. Communicate with Your Child Effectively Using These 20 Tips! #1 Say your child’s name Saying your child’s name helps to get their attention. Once you’ve got their attention, deliver your message. Eg., “Billy, please go and get…” Often, young children can only focus on one thing at a time, so before you speak, say your child’s name until you have their full attention. For example, “Rosie…” (wait until she stops playing and looks at you.) “It’s snack time in five minutes.” #2 Make eye contact with your child Get down to their level or invite them to have a chat with you at the family table. Call out your child’s name until they look at you. Once they do, you can proceed with giving them instructions or simply start a conversation. Gaining their attention is important; make sure to model the same behavior for them. #3 Be gentle, but firm Stick to your decisions. Make it a point that both you and your partner agree on them. Your child may not like your decision, but they will know that it stands firm as Mom and Dad are united in their decision. Make your requests sound that you mean business. Requests delivered in a weak tone will tell your child that you are not too concerned about them following your directions or not. Continued in video... To learn more about Positive Parenting, check out our article here: https://www.stuff4tots.com/positive-p.... You may also enjoy parenting tips and resources at our website: https://www.stuff4tots.com. This presentation contains images that were used under a Creative Commons License. Click here to see the full list of images and attributions: https://link.attribute.to/cc/442744