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CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE - MEMORY - WHY CAN'T I REMEMBER?

CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE - MEMORY - WHY CAN'T I REMEMBER? Here is a youtube video which shares information on childhood sexual abuse, and specifically memory. Many survivors can’t remember much or any of the abuse they suffered and they find this very confusing. I hope this video will go a little way to explain why you can’t remember. I hope you find it helpful. Memory is often a confusing one. Many people can’t remember the detail of what happened to them when they were abused. It’s either missing, or its foggy. This is okay. This is normal. Let me explain something about short and long term memory, and our ‘memory filing system.’ Something happens, an event, an experience, and our mind creates a response to it. It creates a memory. This event pops into the short term memory. (The short term memory needs to be quite small, so that we can react quickly, remember easily, and not get too overloaded.) The new memory doesn’t stay long in the short term memory. It only last about 15-30 seconds (just enough for us to absorb it), and then it goes through a little tunnel into the long term memory at the back – a huge storage area where all the memories are kept. That tunnel bit is where we process the memory, and we process it by understanding it. This is why it is so hard for us to remember things that we don’t understand – they pop in and pop out again, without going into the long term memory. (This happens to me with algebra and equations! Languages is another. Repetition helps with this, as part of our brain will accept something it has heard or experienced before and create a memory from it to be filed.) Studies show that the deeper the level of processing, the more effective the entry into long term memory and its effective storage and later retrieval, suggesting that the quality of the memory is important and dependant on how it was processed or encoded. Imagine if we lived to be one hundred years’ old how many memories would be in here – millions and billions! So, how do we find them? How do we find one single memory amongst all the trillions of memories in there? We file them, and this filing system, well, it needs to be a very sophisticated filing system indeed, or we won’t be able to find anything. The brain uses something called ‘priming’ to do this. Priming is a kind of preparation. Let’s imagine we have experienced a colour – say a flower that is pink. Our brain will have a filing cabinet for ‘colour,’ and it will have another filing cabinet for ‘flowers.’ The memory will go into both, and be linked with an association, so that when we think, ‘pink flower’ in future, our brain knows which cabinets to go to in the long term memory, in order to fetch the right memory back for us. Once it has found it, it brings it back through the tunnel, to the front, so that we can ‘remember’ it consciously. With me so far? (My psychology lecturers would have a fit at my description here of memory, but it is enough for our purposes here!) We can’t possibly remember all of our memories consciously or our brain would crash, overload and blank out, so it kind of retrieves them one at a time, or in groups, and brings them back like that. So, what happens when something happens for a first time, something that has never happened before? Where does the memory go if there is no preceding event that matches it? What happens if there is no filing cabinet for this event – it has never happened before and we have no idea where to file it or what to do with it? And what happens when we don’t even know or understand what the event is? Nothing; nothing happens. The memory can’t get filed. It is lost. It has nowhere to go. For us to file a memory, we need to first understand what it is. Copyright © 2017 Julie Poole Thank you so much for watching, sharing, liking and subscribing. Your support is amazing! The aim of my channel is to help, heal, inspire, guide and inform. Love and blessings to you all - Julie x FIND EVERYTHING YOU NEED ON MY WEBSITE: https://juliepooleonline.com TO BUY AUDIO, VIDEO, PDF & BOOK DOWNLOADS DIRECT FROM ME... https://juliepooleonline.com/downloads/ TO BOOK YOUR OWN PRIVATE READING, HEALING, COACHING AND MORE - https://juliepooleonline.com/book-here/ Facebook -   / juliepooleonline   My videos are only made possible by the support of my viewers and subscribers. If you love watching my free videos, please consider making a donation to support my YouTube Channel. Thank you so much - https://juliepooleonline.com/donation/