How to shift the dynamic if you are being bullied part 2 скачать в хорошем качестве

How to shift the dynamic if you are being bullied part 2

Everything I share is based on what I learned from my experiences. Take what feels helpful and applies to your situation. 💡 Bullies are smart. They know that they would look bad if they openly insulted you in front of others. However, they don’t let this stop them completely. Rather, they find ways to package their insults in ways that allow them to go unnoticed. ♟️ Bullies use strategy. They strategically use (1) jokes and (2) questions as vehicles to deliver insults indirectly and discreetly. Every time you go along with it (the joke that’s about you for the 100th time, the question that feels intrusive) you allow the bully to accomplish their mission. 🐐 Why do bullies do this? Every time you go along with a joke that is about you or answer a question that is meant to be embarassing or uncomfortable, you allow the bully to create the illusion that they are superior, and you are inferior. ‼️ Experience has taught me that there is unfortunately no logic to this. It just is. Accept it or be a victim of it. 📝 what’s the solution? 💪🏻 When a bully delivers jokes that are always about you, act confused. “I don’t get it” “What are you talking about?” “What does that even mean?” “I’m sorry, say that again?” 💪🏻 When thy ask intrusive, embarassing, or negative-framed questions, find ways to not answer the question. (When it comes to negative framed questions, it doesn’t matter what the question is. The implication is always that there’s something wrong and you owe an explanation…even when there’s nothing wrong or it’s for soemthing silly). The best way to handle these is to give them back the question. Example 1: “Why don’t you have kids yet?” Answer: Why do you ask? Do you have kids? Oh thats great, how old? Example 2: “Why don’t you have stickers?” (Yes, very silly…but it accomplishes the same dynamic…) Answer: Why do you ask? Did you want stickers? You get the idea. Give them back the question in a way that makes it about them. 👍 I hope this video finds those who need it.