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How To Love Yourself - Shrink For The Shy Guy Episode 13

http://shrinkfortheshyguy.com/podcast... How To Love Yourself - Shrink For The Shy Guy Episode 13 Subscribe in iTunes: http://goo.gl/U5peQB Get Dr. Aziz's Confidence Building Program: http://ConfidenceUnleashedNow.com Discover The Most Important Skill For Overcoming Shyness And Living The Life You Want When you don't like yourself, life is difficult. It's hard to feel happy, take on new goals, and create satisfying relationships. Everything seems to fall short. Learning how like yourself, love yourself, and be on your own side no matter what is the most important skill you will ever learn. Join Dr. Aziz as he breaks down exactly how to start doing this now. You're Nobody Until Somebody Loves You Hey, welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, I'm Dr. Aziz and today's episode is all about love. Yes as Dean says, you are nobody until somebody loves you and those are pretty powerful words, pretty true in a lot of ways I believe especially the part about gold, not bringing you the happiness that you seek but it really comes from those connections, those relationships and this is something that's verified not only throughout time and philosophy and psychology but also in interviews of people on their death beds. They tend to focus on not their career successes, how much money they earned or even their exotic travels but instead they focus on their connections, their wives, their partners, their husbands or their children, their grandchildren who they connected with, who they impacted, who they touched in their lives. And I believe it's the same for all of us although we can get wrapped up in other things and so that's that statement waiting until somebody loves you is very profound, very true but sometimes we hear that and we're like, oh God, I'm single, I'm a loser. And that's not the direction that I want to go with this today. I want to take those exact same words and change the meaning slightly. You're nobody until somebody loves you. And the question that I want to ask you is do you love you? Do you love yourself? And this is a very powerful question, this is one of the most important inquiries I believe we can make because if you do not love yourself, when — and I say that and it sort of makes it sound black and white, right if you ever love yourself or you don't but the reality is, it's a knob, it's a gradient. It can go from zero love, total self hatred up to complete love and acceptance for ourselves. And the reality is that most of us kind of waiver somewhere in the middle there. And if you imagine a dial where zero is no love for yourself and 10 is, well, a lot of love, where are you? Where do you hover, where is your center of gravity? You know, I know when I was younger, before I even came into the world of psychology, before I even look at any self development, I lived in a state of pretty perpetual self-loathing. That's probably around a two in that range from zero to 10. Maybe two to four, sometimes I'd feel pretty good about myself if I did something or I accomplished something but for the most part, there was a constant stream in my mind of self criticisms, of looking at other people and imagining and assuming that they didn't like me, of completing something on our project and assignment, even a performance in a sports event like soccer. And the critique would remind that it was okay but it could have been better. You should have done more, you weren't quite good enough. Then I was quite perfectionistic person at that point and I'm still, I guess I would, to take Brene Brown, story and I'm a recovering perfectionist. And have been convinced of a necessity to let some of that go. And maybe you can relate to this. To Read More: http://shrinkfortheshyguy.com/podcast...