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OnlineCEUcredit.com “Addictions: Treating Addicted Teen Clients”, “Track #9 Guidelines to Help Parents Stop Enabling and Disengage” TC Guidelines to Help Parents Stop Enabling and Disengage is an excerpt from the Online Continuing Education Course intended for Social Worker CEUs, Psychologist CEUs, Psychology CEUs, Counselor CEUs, MFT CEUs This track is an excerpt from a continuing education course entitled “Addictions: Treating Addicted Teen Clients”, “Track #9 Guidelines to Help Parents Stop Enabling and Disengage”. The course is designed for counselors, MFTs, psychologists, and social workers who are looking for continuing education credit. This track, “Teen Addictions: Guidelines to Help Parents Stop Enabling and Disengage,” covers six guidelines to stop enabling their addicted teen and be able to disengage from their teen’s chemically-induced anger. Guideline #1- Parents should not take their teen’s angry remarks personally. When their teen is under substance abuse influence, the affects cause him to spew angry remarks no matter who is around. Guideline #2 - Parents should refrain from confronting their teen when they are angry. If parents become angry, the best solution is to go into the other room until the feeling is gone, or say they will discuss the topic later when they cool down. Guideline #3 - Parents should think before they speak. An ill-spoken word creates animosity. Make sure that conversation is encouraging and will not cause unnecessary arguments. Guideline #4 - Parents should realize that nagging never accomplishes anything. Constantly reminding their teen the effects of substance abuse does not produce a positive atmosphere. The teen will be turned off, even when the right moment comes along. Guideline #5 - Parents should not hold themselves responsible for their teen’s actions. When a parent covers up for their teen’s mishandled situations, the teen does not learn from his mistakes; instead, he has a sluggish attitude toward being held responsible for his own actions. If their teen gets caught by the authorities, parents should not rush to pay bail, but should leave the teen to spend the night in jail. Perhaps he will reconsider and learn from his actions. Guideline #6 - Parents should not sugar-coat their teen’s addiction when around family, friends, or school administration. When at a family reunion or birthday party or school function, pointing out the teen’s behavior and offering excuses for it does not offer any solution to the situation. Parents should be upfront about the addiction. Remember Olivia from the last track? Her father, James, asked me that if, when Olivia had a hangover, he should write an excuse to the school administration. I said, “Olivia needs to experience the consequences of her own behaviors. Writing an excuse for her is a rescuing behavior, and by rescuing Olivia from these consequences, you enable her addiction.” These techniques are continuing education tools for psychologists, MFTs, counselors, and social workers. Parents can successfully diffuse their teen’s anger by using the Ignoring Skills Technique. First, they must recognize three degrees of their teen’s verbal abuse game: Verbal Abuse Degree #1- Time Comparison leads to anger and causes parents to enable their teen’s addiction. For example, when James told Olivia to be home by 10 pm, she said, “Everyone else gets to stay out until midnight!” I told James that when Olivia responds with a time comparison, he should answer ‘Oh, really?’ Verbal Abuse Degree #2 - Verbal Assault, which can lead to hurt feelings, causes victim-enabling behavior. A verbal assault is when the teen says, “This place sucks!” or “I hate you!” I encouraged James to simply say “Wow” when Olivia made a verbal assault. Verbal Abuse Degree #3 - Going for the Jugular is the severest form of verbal abuse. When Olivia became really angry, she would tell James, “I’m going to do whatever I want, and you can’t stop me! The cops might even pick me up and throw me in jail. You’ll have to come get me and take me to court. The neighbors will all talk about it. Then you’ll be sorry!” James told me he felt guilty. Guilt can lead to rescuer-enabling behavior. “I know this is difficult,” I said, “but when Olivia says things like that, the best thing to say is ‘Whatever’ and ignore her.” Parents can successfully calm their teen’s verbal anger games by using five simple responses: yes, no, oh really, wow, and whatever. These responses to a teen’s anger help parents from falling prey to victim, provoking, and rescuing behavior. The following has been a track from the continuing education course “Addictions: Treating Addicted Teen Clients”, “Track #9 Guidelines to Help Parents Stop Enabling and Disengage”. The CEU hours are intended for the licensure renewal of counselors, MFTs, psychologists, and social workers.