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First Mistake in Non-Monogamy--Not Asking for What You Want

Why is it important to ask for what you want in a relationship? Hi, I’m Dr. Liz from Sex-Positive Psych. And today, I’m diving deeper into the first of the three most common problems in non-monogamy. And that problem is not asking for what you want. So imagine this, you’re going out with someone, you’re going on a date, you thought everything was going to be fine. Then you get to the date and you can kind of tell that something is not working. And you asked him and you’re like “Hey, is everything OK?” He’ll say “Oh yeah, it’s fine” and you looked at him and you’re like “It seems like something is not OK, like what’s going on? Tell me what’s going on” but “Oh no, it’s– it’s fine.” Have any of you ever had that experience? I know I have. The thing is most of us aren’t mind readers. Most of us are really terrible in fact at guessing what’s going through other people’s heads because at best, we make our guesses based on what we know of that person and how our brains operate. And just because your brain operates that way, doesn’t mean that theirs does too. When we’re in a relationship and we don’t ask for what we want, it is almost impossible to guarantee we’re going to get it. Here’s the thing, I see a lot of folks especially people who are new to non-monogamy who are really worried about being so brash as to ask for what they want. They’re worried about “What if this person says no?” and I think they’re worried also about “What if this person says yes?” “What if I could actually get all of the things that I want, all those things that would make my biggest dreams come true?” For the full transcript and resources, visit my blog: http://sexpositivepsych.com/first-mis...