Why Narcissist Hates Good Partners: Sado-maso "Love" (plus Mood Disorders) скачать в хорошем качестве

Why Narcissist Hates Good Partners: Sado-maso "Love" (plus Mood Disorders)

WATCH Narcissist’s Betrayal Fantasy: Painful Mommy Separation    • Narcissist’s Betrayal Fantasy: Painful Mom...   WATCH Narcissist Pays Heavy Price for Betrayal Fantasy    • Narcissist Pays Heavy Price for Betrayal F...   WATCH Masochistic Covert Antinarcissist    • Masochistic Covert Antinarcissist   Narcissist's "love" is sado-masochistic because of early childhood conditioning to associate love with betrayal, withdrawal, avoidance, hurt, and frustration-aggression. In childhood, the aggression is internalized. Hence the masochism. The narcissist needs to coerce the partner to hurt him within the fantasy framework role of her maternal reenactment. Hence the abuse (projective identification and reaction formation). The narcissist's sadism is self-punitive and anticipatory: it engenders the very masochistic pleasure of being punished and agonized. This is sadistic supply. The partner's compliant submissiveness or refusal to engage in her assigned role is perceived as a passive-aggressive denial of gratification and leads to the escalation of abusive sadism. Submissiveness also leads to escalation owing to growing tolerance and desensitization. A reactively abusive (or plain abusive or predatory) partner is perceived as maternally loving and caring. This ameliorates the narcissist's abuse but creates abandonment anxiety and infantile (regressive) dependency on masochistic supply. So, the narcissist is in one of two states in the shared fantasy: sado-masochistically gratified by a punitive mother figure - or sado-masochistically frustrated by a truly loving mature partner. The former leads to attachment, cathexis, and dependency and then to attempted separation-individuation from the maternal figure via devaluation and discard. The latter leads to sadistic and coercive narcissistic abuse and a power play. The narcissist must have his way or annihilate the frustrating object. MOOD DISORDERS Mood disorders exist when the changes in mood are not secondary, not mediated via a cognitive distortion, such as grandiosity or catastrophizing. Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60...