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Why You Ruin Good Things the Moment Life Gets Easy (The Survival Mechanism)"

Everything is finally going well. The relationship is stable. The anxiety has quieted. Life feels manageable for the first time in a long time. And then — almost without realizing it — you destroy it. You pick a fight that didn't need to happen. You pull away from someone getting close. You make the decision that undoes months of progress. And somewhere beneath the guilt, there is a faint, confusing feeling of relief. This video explains exactly why — and what you can actually do about it. This is not about being broken. This is about a survival mechanism your brain built to protect you — that is now working against you. In this video we explore: • Why high stress environments rewire your brain to treat chaos as safety • Why calm and stability feel like danger instead of reward • The Upper Limit Problem — why happiness itself triggers self sabotage • Why picking a fight feels better than letting life happen on its own terms • How your identity becomes attached to struggle — and what happens when the struggle ends • Four concrete strategies to build a real tolerance for peace ________________________________________ The survival mechanism is one of the most misunderstood psychological patterns in human behavior. It develops in people who grew up in high stress, unpredictable or emotionally unstable environments. The nervous system calibrates to crisis as its baseline. When life becomes genuinely stable and good, the hyper-vigilant nervous system registers the unfamiliar calm as a threat rather than a reward. This triggers unconscious self sabotage — arguments, withdrawal, missed opportunities, broken relationships — as the brain attempts to return to the familiar state of crisis it was calibrated to survive. Psychologist Gay Hendricks called this the Upper Limit Problem — an internal thermostat for happiness that activates self destruction when joy exceeds what the subconscious believes is safe or deserved. Understanding this mechanism is the first step to dismantling it. ________________________________________ You do not ruin good things because you are broken. You ruin good things because part of you learned that good things were dangerous. That lesson made sense once. It doesn't have to define you forever. If this video gave words to something you have been carrying quietly — like it and subscribe to PSYCHORA. ________________________________________ 🔔 Subscribe for weekly psychology videos 👍 Like if this video explained something you never had words for 💬 Comment below — do you recognize this pattern in yourself?