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Earning Back Trust After Hurt - Happiness Vlog

What happens if we've hurt someone we care about? X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on:   / xandriaooi     / xandriaooi     / xandriaooi   --- To Read: Have you ever hurt someone and wish you could take it back? If there is a silver lining in having hurt someone you love - this is it: sometimes, it’s only when you’ve hurt someone that you realise how much they actually mean to you, because hurting them hurts you more. And the thought of losing them, scares you. It’s a painful lesson, but one nonetheless. But here’s the thing - no matter how deeply sorry or regretful we are, we cannot expect the people we’ve hurt to welcome us back into their lives with open arms. One someone has been hurt, it’ll be incredibly hard for that person to trust us again. And trust is such a big word, but when it comes to friendships and relationships, what it means is safety, security, love. And when we’ve hurt someone, they don’t feel safe with us guarding their backs anymore, they don’t feel secure in showing us their vulnerability. Even when they forgive us, they’ll instinctively guard their hearts against us. It takes time, and sometimes, a very long time, before the person we’ve hurt will begin to confide in us again. Before they dare show us affection or love. Before their anger - which comes from hurt - fades and they can truly believe that we will never hurt them again. That they are safe with us. We have to accept that it’s not their prerogative to forgive us. We can hope and we can keep trying to show we’re sorry, but we must do it with genuine love and with no expectations. We cannot get frustrated or impatient if the person doesn’t respond in the way we hope. “What more do you want of me?” “What else can I do?” We cannot blame someone for not forgiving us. Because a sorry, is not a sorry-until-it-gets-too-inconvenient, or sorry-until-it-gets-too-hard, but sorry-i-know-i’m-deserving-of-your-trust-again-and-im-going-to-show-that-to-you. It’s not punishment, but just the simple truth that trust that’s been broken… can only be built back again slowly, it’s like water trickling back into a dry dam, it takes time. Things might never be the same between you again, but you can build something new, something stronger, something better if possible. If someone matters to you, don’t give up, even if it seems like they have given up on you. Love will go a long way. Be consistent with your actions, kind with your words and be happy, always. ---