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My world unraveled, WHO WAS I? My DNA Discovery Story

In 2019, I learned my dad was not my biological father, leaving me feeling lost and stripped of my identity. Despite 35 years in holistic health care, I was unprepared for the emotional upheaval and the unraveling of my idea of family. No one in my healing community had experienced this type of trauma. It was new ground for all of us. At the time, I didn't know who my biological dad was. The man who raised me, whom I deeply respected and loved, was seriously ill. He wanted to know his DNA results. I struggled to tell him, unsure whether he was aware. I feared breaking his heart after 57 years of marriage to my mother. With all these questions and emotions swirling, I turned back to my roots. Having been in holistic health care for over 35 years, I started leaning into that experience and trusting myself to begin unraveling this mess of emotions. I entered TruthSeeker® Mode, determined to find answers. No one spoke openly. Not knowing my biological dad wasn't an option, so I started investigating. I sifted through lifelong memories. I had a strong feeling in my body, and a last name —I felt a full-body "yes." A knowing that this was my family. Now what? I found one of the family members on Facebook and messaged him. I was terrified. The DNA matched, and the truth could hurt him, so I approached with love and clarity, while also setting boundaries to protect myself. Trusting my inner guidance brought me to my new family—three brothers, new to me. It was overwhelming, messy, beautiful, and hard to process. With all these changes, I realized something important: Your DNA Discovery and all the fallout are NOT your fault. When we go through this, it’s normal for everyone to end up mad at you or take their pain out on you. I have spoken to over 1200 people now who have been through this, and that fact remains. We do not know how to do THIS, navigate THIS, or heal THIS. So me-us, the zero patient, as I call it, the person who took the DNA test. That is why I am sharing my story. That is why I am also helping people who have gone through this as a Certified Coach, creating a MAP to follow, and creating a private community for us. As a result of all this, navigating family situations and upsets has become part of my new normal. Some of us do not live near our families, so all the feelings come out when we see them. The feeling about that thing you did when you were 15 that REALLY pissed that person off is now the totality of your persona to them. Remembering that we are NOT One-Size-Fits-All, I kept seeking ways to heal—from therapists to mediums. I tried it ALL. Both of my parents had passed away by the time I found out, and I still wanted answers. I am the kind of person who turns over every stone; my friends nicknamed me TruthSeeker®, though I have been called Momma Judy since high school, because I’ve always wanted to take care of other people. But now, for the first time, I was the one who needed a Momma Judy to help, yet I wasn’t finding what I needed. Determined, I focused on connecting to my parents on the other side. I have always been sensitive to that world—it doesn’t bother me if you don’t believe in it; for me, it just is. Guided by intuition, I have found myself in the right place before—for example, my inner guidance brought me home from Jamaica four days before my sister was killed in a helicopter crash—a story for another time. Continuing to follow that guidance, I next sought out @estelle.bingham, a fourth-generation healer in the UK. I joined her on a group Zoom, where she guided us in meditation, and I saw my biological dad on the other side so clearly. My hands were out in front of me; he put his hands into mine. I FELT him. I cannot explain it. Even crazier, I have the video of it; she called on me to speak right after, in the moment. I felt his love. It was CRAZY, beautiful, and powerful. Through it all, I’ve learned that we all heal so differently. What works for me may not work for you. Recognizing we are NOT one-size-fits-all, I now use my experience to help others on their DNA Discovery journey, supporting them on the other side of this Identity Level Trauma®. To be able to offer this support, I attended school and completed intensive training for years to become a Wellness Coach, a Health Coach, and a Trauma Coach. I have degrees in Integrative Nutrition, NLP, and Feng Shui, and completed deep dives into all these areas—perhaps unknowingly preparing for this journey. I am available to you, and I have a wonderful community for you to be part of that has all gone through this. We are NOT alone! Comment or message me if you want to connect! We also have a Podcast coming soon called UNRAVELED: After DNA Discovery. If you want to share your story, do it anonymously to protect your family and yourself. If you want to participate, message me or comment below anytime. I am grateful to you all for your support as my healing journey continues.