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Ep 50: Let Go of the Outcome - Why Seeking Control Is Holding You Back | The Gen Mess with Tess

In Episode 50 of The Gen Mess with Tess, Tess explores a dynamic that quietly derails high performers at every level: the moment work starts to feel like a test. When every meeting feels evaluative and every decision feels like it determines your worth, anxiety rises, and performance often drops. Tess unpacks why this happens and why the solution isn’t caring less, but redefining what actually belongs to you. Drawing from her clinical work with emerging leaders, she breaks down: Why over-focusing on outcomes increases anxiety and self-consciousness The psychological difference between effort and approval How new managers get stuck trying to predict reactions Why Gen Z struggles uniquely in a metrics-driven culture The mindset shift that restores confidence, clarity, and flow From a first-time manager learning to lead without control, to unexpected lessons from Olympic figure skating and competitive design, Tess illustrates one central truth: Your job is the effort. The outcome was never yours to manage. For HR leaders and executives, this episode is also a leadership lens. When organizations unintentionally create constant evaluation environments, employees tighten up — and innovation suffers. If you’re navigating pressure, perfectionism, or performance anxiety — this episode will help you rethink control and reconnect with your best work. Chapters with Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome: When Work Starts to Feel Like a Test 02:00 – Why Anxiety Increases When Outcomes Feel Personal 04:30 – What “Letting Go of the Outcome” Actually Means 06:00 – Effort vs. Approval: The Critical Distinction 07:30 – Case Study: Brittany’s Transition to Management 11:00 – The Office Hours Experiment 13:30 – Changing Your Relationship to Response 15:30 – Performance Pressure & Young Professionals 18:00 – The Gen Z Metrics Trap 21:00 – Why Measured Lives Create Outcome Attachment 23:30 – Flow State & Releasing Control 26:00 – Care Deeply About What’s Yours 28:30 – Final Reflection: Own the Effort, Release the Rest ✅ SUBSCRIBE for more insightful conversations. Click the Bell to be the first to know when a new video is uploaded. 🎧 Listen to the full podcast episodes on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and everywhere you listen to your favorite shows! Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2EuYiwR... ⭐️ Follow me on Social Media Linkedin:   / tessbrigham   Instagram:   / tess_brigham   Tiktok:   / tessbrigham   Contact me directly tess@tessbrigham.com