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Ep. 41 Want To Stop Feeling Resentful In Your Marriage? (Use the 3% Rule)

In this episode, I'm breaking down a deceptively simple tool that can change the emotional temperature of your marriage fast: the 3% Rule. If your partner is “97% responsible” for what’s wrong, where is your 3%—the part you can own, influence, and change? This isn’t about taking the blame or excusing bad behavior. It’s about taking responsibility in a relationship in a way that reduces resentment, lowers defensiveness, and gives you real agency instead of staying stuck in the blame game. I share how I learned this concept (inspired by Katherine Woodward Thomas and the work of Unconscious Uncoupling) after my first marriage ended—and how it helped me let go of lingering anger, regret, and bitterness so she could show up better as a co-parent and in other relationships. What you’ll learn: What the 3% Rule is (and why it’s not self-blame—it’s leverage) How the 3% Rule creates emotional peace by reducing resentment, blame, defensiveness, and regret The biggest clue you’re stuck in the blame game (“they, they, they…” thinking) and what to do instead How to identify your recurring negative thoughts, triggers, and patterns to find your 3% What your 3% can look like in common dynamics: Feeling controlled → speaking up, setting and holding boundaries Dealing with lies/omissions → creating emotional safety so honesty is possible Feeling consistently let down → turning unspoken expectations into clear agreements Why vague requests (“I need more help”) don’t work—and how to make specific, actionable asks How to stop ignoring the data when your partner has a track record (late, avoidant, forgetful) and respond with boundaries and/or support The “missing step” that keeps couples stuck: not closing the loop with a clear “next time” plan A real-life example of how the 3% Rule can shift intimacy issues, desire, and disconnection in a marriage. Instagram:   / karihoskinscoaching   Facebook:   / kari.lifecoaching   YouTube:    / @karihoskinscoaching   Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com