Letting Go of “Shoulds” in Midlife Burnout: Softening the Rules That Keep Us Burnt Out скачать в хорошем качестве

Letting Go of “Shoulds” in Midlife Burnout: Softening the Rules That Keep Us Burnt Out

In this solo episode of Midlife Reclaimed, psychologist and author Shannon A. Swales gently explores one of the quiet but powerful drivers of midlife burnout for women: the weight of “shoulds.” Those internalised expectations — I should be coping better… I shouldn’t need this much rest… I should be able to do it all — often sit beneath chronic stress, exhaustion, and self-criticism. And yet, they’re rarely questioned. In this reflective conversation, Shannon unpacks: What “shoulds” really are (and how they differ from values) Why they tend to intensify in midlife How they keep us overextended and disconnected from our limits Why rest alone doesn’t resolve burnout if the internal pressure remains How to begin softening expectations with compassion — without guilt, selfishness, or giving up on what matters This episode isn’t about lowering standards or opting out of responsibility. It’s about replacing rigid rules with self-respect, discernment, and values — so you can live with more ease, sustainability, and care for yourself in midlife. As always, this episode offers general information and reflection, not personal therapy. You’re invited to listen gently, pause when needed, and take what supports you. Host: Shannon Swales: Clinical Psychologist, award-winning author, and midlife woman who’s walked through burnout and come out the other side. Shannon combines clinical wisdom with lived experience to support others navigating chronic stress, burnout, and big life transitions. Through gentle conversations and evidence-based insights, she helps women reconnect with themselves, reclaim their energy, and grow through what once felt like breaking points. If you enjoy the Midlife Reclaimed Podcast, join our community: • Midlife Reclaimed Online Community - a place to come back home to self - https://midlife-reclaimed.mn.co/ • Social Media: Instagram, Facebook, or LinkedIn @shannon.a.swales • 1:1 Therapy: www.shannonaswales.com/therapy Subscribe to my Mailing List: www.shannonaswales.com/subscribe and receive a free eJournal to assist in coming home to yourself. Disclaimer: This podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship with Shannon A Swales. The views expressed are general & not a substitute for personalised therapy. If in distress, seek professional help. Remember—you don’t have to face your struggles alone.