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My Husband And I Have Different Political Views | Paul Friedman

Are you having issues with your husband because both of you have different political views? Watch Paul explains why the issue of politics should not affect your marriage. Instead of talking about politics, we're going to talk about your marriage because my thing you might say is to put aside for today maybe tomorrow, maybe next week. Those things that interfere with the happiness within marriage because after all you got married for two primary promises, right? Not political promises but there are promises that are unspoken when we get married. One of those promises is that we're going to be happier every single day of our lives. Isn't it so, isn't that why you got married? You're not going to be happy or based on some political thing, it's temporary at best. Your life is a microcosmic life. It's just the two of you in your marriage and so happiness within what I call the sacred space of marriage is a very important thing, and everything that you do, everything that you say even everything that you think should contribute to the happiness that exists in your sacred space of marriage. The other promise of marriage is love. You want to experience unconditional love. You want to live in that love. Truthfully, when you understand marriage better and you know how to work your marriage those two promises are natural. You have happiness, you have love and it's ever-expanding. It's amazing, so what gets in the way of that besides political opinions because that's all they are right unless one of you is a chairperson in a particular party or something. It shouldn't be brought into your marriage. Your politics don't belong in your marriage. Think of it as a bubble, just two of you are in this bubble. Outside of this bubble are all the carrying on of the world, the violence, the dishonesty, the people trying to take advantage of you. They're all out there. They're not honest with you. They're not looking out for your best interests. But in this bubble are two people who have promised to love each other look out for each other, be with each other. Here you have this bubble of love and harmony. Why? Because the two of you are the only two who get into this bubble and you're the only two who are allowed to put anything into this bubble. So if you only put good things supportive talk, loving talk, compliments and you avoid those things within this bubble that will disrupt your harmony, disrupt your happiness and your love. If you keep it a sacred space of marriage it'll remain so and some people argue they say, "Well, that's not very realistic." Well, yes it is. It goes back to why you got married and if you are thinking, "Well, but I have to go on with life." Yes, but it's you who chooses what aspects of life you bring in to your matrimonial bubble. It's up to you and you alone, you and your husband choose. So choose not to if it's a problem which obviously it is for you and you're triggered by views that are different than yours when it comes to politics. There's no law that says you have to discuss politics. There's no law that says he has to vote the way you vote. Your lives are not based on politics. Your lives are based on values and you share most of the values. You share, you may have some differences of opinion but for the most part, you share the biggest value is the value of wanting to maintain love, happiness, and harmony in your bubble and let that even expand out to your family. So your children are influenced not by your political views truly, they perhaps should be if that's what you think it's okay with me. But much more important than that is they should be influenced by how much you love your husband and you've demonstrated even if you disagree. If you're searching for this topic, you don't have enough composure frankly to even joke about politics in front of your children or with your husband. Make it a topic that you don't discuss. Make it an agreement that you don't watch the news at the same time. You do your research. Let him do but keep it in its place. Life is all about setting priorities for ourselves. Defining what is valuable to us, what's important to us, and what isn't. And because of our social interaction and even more are the media interaction that we have which is all one way frankly where they're telling us how to think, how to feel, how to see things. We should set that priority very low. A much higher priority is what quiz time. It is maintaining love, learning how to love unconditionally within your marriage and happiness, having happiness. Be the primary goal for you and your husband to enjoy together. Why should it be any other way? Think about it. Take a piece of paper. Layout what's important to you and trust me, if you don't have and this may sound like a challenge to you but I'm going to put it right out there. Watch the video for more. #marriagetips #political #marriageissues #communication #communicationskills #lovewins