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EP231: When Pain Needs Care Not A Villian

In this powerful episode, of The Estranged Heart podcast, marking the 10-year anniversary of her own estrangement, Kreed explores why parents' feelings deserve care, but cannot be resolved by rewriting their adult children as villains. Drawing from her unique perspective as both a former estranged parent and adult child who achieved reconciliation, she examines the protective function of villain narratives and their ultimate cost. The Hidden Function of Villain Stories • Villain narratives aren't born from cruelty—they're born from overwhelm, pain, and protection The True Cost of Moral Certainty • Villain stories may soothe the nervous system temporarily, but they freeze movement and make real repair nearly impossible What Estrangement Really Exposes • Parents were told (implicitly or explicitly) that if they loved, sacrificed, and provided enough, their child would stay The Casualties of Certainty • Grief never completes its cycle because it requires contact with loss, not moral victory • Shame goes underground and hardens into defensiveness "What feeling am I protecting by needing my child to be the villain?" This isn't an interrogation—it's an invitation. You don't have to answer today. What Your Feelings Deserve: • Your grief deserves care • Your anger deserves space • Your shame deserves tenderness • Your heartbreak deserves witnesses What They Cannot Do: • Your child cannot be the container for those feelings • Neither can a story that requires erasing their inner life to soothe your own pain Kreed's Personal Testimony"I firmly believe that if I had stayed in that frame of mind [of villainizing my daughters], we would not be reconciled today. And we have been reconciled eight and nine years this year." Resources & Support The Heart Collective Membership Community • Twice-monthly live support groups for estranged and reconciled moms • Community support and resources Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) -   / estrangedmotherssupportgroup   One-on-One Services • Private coaching • Consulting • Mediation services Connect with Kreed: • Website: theestrangedheart.com (http://theestrangedheart.com) • Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com • Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere) (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.