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Episode 361: The Cost of Holding On [

Yesterday we reflected on verse 42:40 and discussed “aslaha” — making amends with others, which is an important part of setting things right with Allah. Today we turn to the word that comes before it in the verse: “The recompense of evil is an evil like it, but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.” (42:40) Before reconciliation comes forgiveness ‘afw. The Qur’an begins by acknowledging something deeply human: if someone wrongs you, you have the right to respond proportionally. Justice is permitted. The Qur’an is not asking you to pretend the harm did not happen. Only after validating the harm does the verse introduce a higher path: forgive and reconcile. Notice something important: forgiveness is presented as a choice, not an obligation. This matters because resentment often grows when people feel pressured to “move on” before the harm has been acknowledged. The Qur’an does not rush that process. But while forgiveness is optional, holding on to resentment has a cost. When we carry a grievance, we imagine we are holding something against the person who wronged us. In reality, the weight lives inside us — in our thoughts, our sleep, our prayers, and our peace of mind. Islamic tradition describes different stages of resentment in the heart. Bughd is the hostility we feel when we remember the person. Hiqd is the deliberate nursing of the grudge. Ghill is when resentment becomes embedded in the heart itself. The Qur’an even tells us that the people of Paradise will only fully enter peace after Allah removes whatever ghillremains in their hearts (7:43). Resentment poisons the heart that carries it. Forgiveness, difficult as it may be, is one of the acts the Qur’an calls “among the matters requiring courage.” (42:43) Tomorrow, insha’Allah, we will explore the motivation the Qur’an offers for choosing this courageous path. Reflection • Is there someone whose wrongdoing I am still carrying? • Am I aware of what that resentment is costing me? PS: I would be so grateful if you can take a moment to fill out this short feedback form. It will really help in planning future content: https://forms.gle/17DSFs6sUVPmVkn69