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This is the problem with being a really good listener.

Pre-order STOP People Pleasing and Find Your Power at haileymagee.com/book Is this you? 👋 I used to think that I was only valuable when I was holding space for other people. Folks would say “Oh my god, you’re such a good listener!” and this validated my impression that I was valuable because of what I GAVE, not who I was. Since I felt comfortable in this smaller, listening role, I was drawn to folks who sought someone to play that role. And I also felt resentful when, six months in, the same old pattern emerged: most of our conversations were about them, their passions, their ideas. But the thing is, I participated in creating this dynamic. By not taking up space. People who are looking for mutual, reciprocal connections don’t just look for smallness in friends and partners. They want more than mirrors: they want full-fledged humans with voices, interests, opinions, and ideas. What a revelation it was for me: When I learned that I could be funny, outspoken, opinionated, and clear about what I want, and that others would enjoy me for it! That they would WANT to hear my stories. That they would WANT me to express my preferences about plans, activities, and more. When we start taking up space, some people might be scared away by the fact that we have a voice and we’re using it. Let them be scared away. These are the wrong people for us, because they want mirrors—not reciprocal, mutual relationships. And we were made for more than just reflecting. 👉👉👉 My debut book, STOP People Pleasing and Find Your Power, is an empathetic, step-by-step guide to owning your voice, taking up space, and advocating for the reciprocal relationships that you deserve. Pre-order it today at haileymagee.com/book #listener #introvert #infj #intp #meyersbriggs #empath #goodlistener #empathy #peoplepleasing #boundaries #takeupspace #assertiveness #therapists #therapyhumor #curiosity #communicationstyles #healing #authenticity #divorce #narcissist #codependency