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Will I ever find love? How to find true love

#selflove #selfesteem #selfworth Will I ever find love? How to find true love. TRIGGER WARNING: this video may trigger some people as it contains a description of my #metoo moment. Will I ever find love? This is a question a lot of you ask me. I get e-mails from across the globe every day and messages on my Blog, FB Page and here on YouTube.  They all say this: Will I find love? Will I ever find love again? Usually, it's after leaving a relationship that was no good for them. They have that same fear they're unlovable, that they're never going to find love again. Or they say: Why do I keep doing this? Repeating the same pattern in a relationship, attracting the wrong type? I'll tell you why we repeat the same pattern over again. We go to what's familiar to us. We don't know why but it just feels right. You might have been in a relationship that was abusive and go for somebody else you think is completely different. But they turn out to be the same. They're just packaged differently. That's because narcissists and abusive types wear different masks. But they're the same person underneath. You will keep attracting the wrong type of relationship until you change You. Trying to change things outside of you is a waste of time and energy. You may think: I'll try dating a different type. He/she was like this. Next time I'll try that. What you're really saying is you need somebody else to validate you and make you happy. But you'll keep repeating the stay the same mistake over and over again. Will I ever find love again? Yes, you will. Will I ever find healthy love with someone who treats me with respect, is kind to me and makes me laugh? Yes, you will. Can you stop going for the wrong type over and over again?  Yes. How to find true love? All you need to do is fall in love with yourself first. You've got to fall in love with yourself because when you're looking for love your level of self-worth determines the type of person you will attract. You may not even be aware that deep inside you have a low sense of self-worth or don't feel lovable. But, if so, you're going to attract people who are the mirror of you and don't think you're lovable or worthy either. Like attracts like. You will only attract to you who you are manifesting within yourself. Fall in love with yourself first because if you fall in love with yourself you will only attract people who also think you're worthy of being loved and treated with respect. Secondly, you'll be so full of self-worth you'll not only be unafraid of saying no, but your happiness won't depend on anyone else. Love yourself first. Then you can set better boundaries.  You won't fear confrontation or saying no, this is not good enough for me, I deserve better. Until you learn to love yourself first, to fall in love with You then you will keep going for that same type over again. That is why I kept attracting jerks who hurt me. I didn't love myself enough. When you ask the question with fear behind it: Will I ever find love again? This is code for saying. I'm unworthy I'm unlovable. Unless some knight in shining armor comes to validate you. Once you love yourself, you won't care so much because you'll be so happy within yourself you'll be okay with or without them. You'll be okay. You'll know you're enough. That was one of the most liberating moments in my life. And you know what often happens when you're happiness comes from within first and you a partner is not what your self-worth depends on?  That's when love finds you. That's when love found me.  I first met my husband at a dinner party and we got on straight away. I thought: He's really nice. I had a fantastic time in his company. But, if I never see him again that's okay. If it's meant to be it will be. If not, so be it. It did work out. We're still together after more than 30 years.  The difference was that I wasn't in a desperate, lonely place. Fall in love with yourself first. Then you will find love again. Or you'll be so happy within yourself, it won't matter if you don't.  You'll be surrounded by love anyway with friends who love you. You won't attract those hurt you or those who at first look different because they're packaged in different wrapping. You won't go into an unhealthy, dysfunctional relationship because you're afraid to say no. You might also like to watch these videos: Self-worth: why self-esteem and self-love matter:    • Self-Worth:  Why self-esteem and self-love...   Love yourself first:    • Love yourself first   Dating too soon:    • Dating too soon