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Why Strong Boundaries are Key to EVERYTHING

You’re a strong woman who has built a career that you’re proud of but there’s one thing you don’t understand. Why do other people always think you’re a pushover and try it on? Colleagues dump their workloads on you or expect you to clean up their mess, or take the glory away from you. They disrespect you. Friends always expect you to go to them and wherever it is they have decided to go. They never ask what you’d like to do or where you’d like to meet. Siblings expect too much and never even ask you how you are. Relationships … Well, they’ve never ended well and have always been a one-way street, emotionally. None has ever left you feeling content, fulfilled, let alone happy. Many have been toxic and you’ve stayed in them too long. Even after they’ve treated you coldly, cheated and/or lied to you. Emotionally manipulated you. How can someone so capable, successful, and strong be taken advantage of so much? I get it. It baffled me for years. Every single one of my clients has also asked me the same question. ‘There must be something about me’ they say. ‘Everybody treats me this way’. ‘It’s boundaries’, I tell them. ‘You have none’. Strong boundaries are key to EVERYTHING. They tell others how you wish to be treated, what you will or won’t accept. They mean you never have to fear confrontation, as they clearly telegraph what your red lines are in advance. And, when you stand firm in them, they scream out that when they cross them it's a deal breaker for you. You will always respect and put yourself first. And never abandon yourself or your values to them. It's easier said than done though, at first. Building boundaries and standing strong in them was terrifying for me. But when I learned how to do this, it changed everything. Imagine, if toxic people can see something different in you instead. Inner strength and an invisible sign that tells them it's pointless to even bother trying to test you. That beams out like a beacon you’re not only strong on the outside but on the inside as well. Imagine no longer feeling anxiety or stress, or walking on eggshells anticipating who is going to take advantage of you next. Or terrified of confrontation. How would that change your life? What would it feel like to never sacrifice yourself again, let alone settle for less for others who just don’t care? If toxic people not only stopped bullying or taking advantage of you but steer clear of you as well? And you started to ONLY attract well-adjusted, balanced, healthy people into your life instead? It's peaceful, free, stable, and calm. A life in which you are only surrounded by those who enhance your life, not steal your joy.