It Doesn’t Have to Be Hard: Midlife Mindset Shifts to Stop White-Knuckling Life скачать в хорошем качестве

It Doesn’t Have to Be Hard: Midlife Mindset Shifts to Stop White-Knuckling Life

Midlife mindset, stress relief, and emotional healing for women over 40. In this episode, we explore how to shift your midlife mindset, lower stress, and stop white-knuckling your way through life. Host Lesa Koski and her coach, Coach Tracy, unpack the beliefs that keep women stuck in “it has to be hard” mode and show you how slowing down can actually lead to better results in your health, relationships, and emotional well-being. You’ll hear how Lesa’s breast cancer journey forced her into stillness, why cortisol and hormones matter more than we think, and how tools like daily self-coaching and intentional planning can transform your midlife mindset. If you’ve ever felt like you’re grinding through your days, pushing harder but feeling worse, this conversation will help you see a softer, more sustainable way forward. Listen in to learn how to name your emotions without judgment, examine the thoughts driving them, and give yourself permission to move at a healthier pace—without losing your ambition or your identity. This episode is a powerful invitation to reframe your midlife mindset and start doing life different. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction to why we make life harder than it needs to be (03:10) Lesa’s breast cancer story and the surprising power of stillness (07:45) White-knuckling, overachieving, and the “no pain, no gain” myth (13:20) Cortisol, hormones, and why stress can block weight loss and healing (18:50) The courage to slow down and sit with your emotions (23:30) Naming feelings, stopping judgment, and shifting core beliefs (29:05) Using intentional planning to decide how you want to feel (34:40) Practical micro-steps to create more ease in everyday life (39:10) Final encouragement: it doesn’t have to be hard & how to get support Key Takeaways: Ease can create better results than effort. Slowing down, resting, and listening to your body often leads to deeper healing and more sustainable progress than constant pushing. Your thoughts—not your circumstances—create your emotional experience. When you can name what you’re feeling and see the belief behind it, you can finally change it. Stress and cortisol matter. White-knuckling, over-fasting, and over-training can backfire, especially for midlife women, by raising cortisol and blocking physical and emotional results. Stillness takes courage, not weakness. Sitting with your emotions, instead of fixing or judging them, is a powerful way to lower stress and reclaim your peace. You can decide how you want to feel ahead of time. Intentional planning—choosing your desired feeling and thought before events—can transform everything from social gatherings to work commitments. Guest Bio: Coach Tracy is a master life and weight coach and the creator of the Self-Made U™ method and planner, where she helps high-achieving women and men learn how to manage their minds, regulate emotions, and create results from the inside out. As Lesa’s longtime coach, Tracy has walked alongside her through breast cancer, major life transitions, and the process of “doing life different,” equipping her with tools that now support women in midlife all over the world. Resource Links: Learn more about coaching with Lesa Koski: lesakoski.com Listen to more episodes of Doing Life Different: Self-Made U™ Planner & tools from Coach Tracy: i_CmpkOb8u1U51fMLb44lqAo2UPWcDGkWm_aO32fwnGCNpls7jGPwxpRM8jcolFg85ZnWhElxYjbBVBtStOXtfeclFNfLwpt6wUNUu5vLz5m3yS Free Feelings Wheel (to help you name emotions) Tags/Keywords: midlife mindset, midlife women, women over 40, emotional health, stress management, cortisol and weight, breast cancer survivor, slowing down, overwhelm, burnout, mindset coaching, life coaching for women, stillness, white knuckling life, doing life different, Lesa Koski, Coach Tracy, self coaching, emotional regulation, perimenopause, menopause, Christian coach, healing journey, planner for women, personal growth, women’s mental health, midlife reinvention, lifestyle podcast, Spotify podcast, YouTube podcast I’ve spent over 25 years helping families navigate amicable divorce as a lawyer and mediator, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. But my mission has expanded. Today, I support women over 40 not just through endings, but in building stronger relationships—and sometimes even saving their marriages. I’m a breast cancer survivor, a cowgirl at heart, a wellness advocate, and a follower of Jesus. My life and faith fuel my passion for helping women thrive. Through my podcast Doing Divorce Different, I share real conversations and practical tools to help you navigate relationships, health, and purpose with courage, resilience, and a little sass. Life after 40 isn’t a decline, it’s a deeper ride. If you're ready for growth, healing, and a faith-filled community cheering you on, you’re in the right place. Resource Links: Lesa Koski Website:https://www.lesakoski.com/