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How to have great conversations by asking open ended questions

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone you love and all you got were one word answers? Hi, I'm Kelly, pastor, police chaplain and marriage coach. The way to have great conversations is to use open ended questions. Instead of asking questions that can be answered with one word, like "how was your day?" ask "Tell me about your day." This invites your husband or wife to let you know about all that occurred that day. Here are some examples of open ended questions: 1. Tell me about your day... 2. What happened next? 3. Tell me more about… 4. How does that work? 5. How did that make you feel? 6. What is something that I can do tomorrow that will make your day better? 7. What are some stresses that you are currently facing? 8. What is it about these things that is causing you stress? 9. Tell me how I can help? 10. How is our relationship doing? 11. Is there something you’d like to see more of in our marriage? 12. Is there something you’d like to see less of in our marriage? Here's some do's and don'ts about using open ended questions: 1. Do set aside time and be mentally prepared for a longer conversation – if you ask an open ended question, be prepared for a longer answer. 2. Do listen generously, making eye contact and responding non verbally 3. Do wait until your spouse finishes to ask a follow up question 4. Do be genuinely curious and seek to understand your spouse’s world 5. Do be empathetic and seek to understand and validate their feelings 6. Don’t use the word “why” as in “why did you do that?” 7. Don’t interrupt 8. Don’t start talking about yourself or your day until your spouse is done talking about theirs. 9. Don’t start telling a story about how you went through something similar, it’s not your turn. 10. Don’t fix or give advice unless asked I hope this helps you improve the quality of the conversations you have with your loved ones, especially the person you're married to! Please comment below, share this with your friends, subscribe to my channel and let me know if I can help your marriage with some coaching by reaching out to me in the comments.