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Rewriting the Family Script: How to Protect Your Partner Without Betraying Your Parents | Episode 37

Let’s be honest—navigating in-law dynamics can stir up old wounds and test even the strongest relationships. In episode 37 of Roadmap to Secure Love, emotionally focused therapists Kyle Benson and Kimberly Castelo explore the raw, often unspoken challenges couples face when trying to honor their families of origin without betraying their bond with each other. If you've ever felt torn between your parents and your partner, or found yourself reverting to childhood roles the moment you step through your parents’ door, you’re not alone. The work of in law conflict resolution isn’t just about setting boundaries—it’s about redefining loyalty, staying emotionally present, and standing up for the relationship you’re building. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: Why emotional regression is so common—and so damaging—around family What it means to be the “face” of your marriage to your parents How to shift your primary alliance without cutting ties The hidden cost of venting about your partner to your parents Ways to protect your spouse’s image, even when your family doesn’t understand This conversation is a powerful invitation to reflect on how your past shapes your present—and how you can show up more fully for the one you love. ✨ Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/142uvaA... YouTube: https://bit.ly/KBRoadmap 📖 Sign up for The Secure Attachment Path course to learn practical tools for building secure connections: https://bit.ly/secureattach1 Until next time, stay connected and love fully. 0:00 Introduction: Why In-Law Dynamics Are So Hard Kim and Kyle open up about the emotional complexity of managing parents and partners, and why this topic makes even therapists anxious. 0:43 The Unspoken System You Inherit How couples unconsciously fall into family patterns without ever discussing how to handle in-laws. 1:22 Emotional Regression: “How Old Do You Feel Around Your Parents?” Kim explores how being with parents can trigger childhood behaviors and how that impacts your partner. 4:30 Seeing the Family Portrait from the Inside Kyle explains why your partner often sees family dynamics more clearly than you do, and why their perspective is gold. 5:21 Shifting Loyalty: Your Partner Becomes Your Family The crucial emotional milestone of moving from being your parents’ child to your partner’s teammate. 7:08 Why Going to Your Parents for Advice Backfires Kyle unpacks how seeking parental validation can betray your partner and harm your relationship’s trust. 7:28 Protecting Your Partner’s Image Kim confesses her own “mom bias,” and they discuss why sharing frustrations with parents can permanently color their view of your spouse. 10:12 Be the Face of Your Marriage Why you (not your partner) should handle conflict with your parents, and how to communicate boundaries with maturity and love. 12:06 Facing the Fear of Shifting Alliances Kim and Kyle explore the hidden fears of losing approval or creating conflict when you prioritize your marriage. 12:30 How to Hold Compassionate Boundaries Strategies for staying firm and kind when parents resist new boundaries. 13:58 Curiosity Over Criticism: Supporting Your Partner’s Experience How to listen when your spouse raises concerns about your parents without getting defensive. 14:40 The Three-Day Regression Rule Research shows that within three days, most of us slip back into old family roles. Here’s how to notice and reset. 16:16 Key Takeaways: Protect Love, Stand Together Kyle and Kim summarize the core lessons: shifting allegiance, protecting your partner’s image, and standing as a united team. 16:31 Closing & Resources Next steps: courses, podcast links, and encouragement to “stay connected and keep listening with love.” Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship.