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Episode 42: What to Do When We Feel Like a Rubbish Parent: 13 Steps to Dealing with Parenting Doubt

Sometimes we all feel we’ve missed the mark with our kids and it’s not a great feeling. What might be helpful during those times? In this conversation, we return to follow up on the discussion from Episode #40: Feel Like a Rubbish Parent? Nine Things to Remember When You Feel Like a Rubbish Parent and weave in some action steps as well as explore many related thoughts. We invite you to join us! Both of these conversations are based on Hayley’s blog posts of the same titles. You can link in the Resources to read the full posts. We Discuss: That it’s alright to have hard feelings, yet we don’t want to become stuck in them Sending ourselves a very intentional message to slow down and not get into spiralling negative thoughts Distraction as a way to create some space from anxious or negative thoughts for a period of time The innate coping mechanisms that our systems have that we can trust to give us natural space from worry, often in the form of sleep and rest Bringing ourselves back to the present moment How we often spend a lot of our time in the extremities of thinking about the past or the future Life as a series of moments, and reminding ourselves that we get to choose how to make the most of those, learn from them and put them into the big focus, letting the others drift away Remembering that what we take from any moment is going to be different from those around us That when we’re living up in our head, we’re not as present and connected with our children Reminding ourselves of the gratitude we have for the particular stage our children are in as a way of coming back to the moment and not missing these times that we won’t get back Using our senses to help, bring us back to the present moment and getting back into our body Deciding which input we’re going to listen to, and let in, and choosing which voices and people to have in our lives and to centre Noticing which experiences we really feel present in and bringing more of those in Acknowledging our greater need for rest sometimes when we live more presently and fully in the moment Spending time with our kids in ways that we are both focussed and engaged with as a way of staying present and connected That some personalities have a tendency toward glass half empty versus glass half full and and it may be helpful to quite intentionally practice gratitude if it doesn’t feel it’s coming up on its own Bringing in humour and deciding which way we’re going to see a situation Looking from the perspective that things are either okay or they’re a story Keeping our emotions in flow rather than getting stuck in a rut with ourselves and our children The overwhelm of feeling incompetent and frustrated as a parent Crying and physical movement as ways of moving our emotions through Holding our feelings in for moments where that feels the safest or best … yet acknowledging that they’re there and intentionally giving ourselves time later to process and move them through Choosing to talk less sometimes Choosing kindness toward ourselves and our children, and that it doesn’t necessarily matter where kindness starts because it will circle around either way Challenges, ideas and strategies when our children are blaming or feeling negatively about our parenting Making space for the inevitability of strong emotion, differences of opinion and arguments That as parents, we sometimes need to give ourselves grace for criticisms our children might have, while at the same time validating our children and being accountable Remembering that children can often come to their own conclusions and resolve things without us necessarily becoming involved Reflecting with our children about people’s intentions and what might be going on for them Parenting as a relationship rather than a job with a checklist Resources: What to Do When You Feel Like a Rubbish Parent: 13 Steps to Dealing With Parenting Doubt – Taking a Kinder Path Episode #40: Feel Like a Rubbish Parent? 9 Things to Do When You Doubt your Parenting Who I Am: The Words I Tell Myself by Susan Verde, Peter H. Reynolds (Illustrator) Birdbound Lulastic Hippyshake Ever Learning – Being Conscious of the External Processor: How Being Aware of the Way our Child Makes Decisions Can Help Us Avoid Getting Tangled Up 19 Benefits of a Good Cry: The Comforting Case for Crying (and Why it’s Good for Us) – Taking a Kinder Path Virtual Kitchen Table Community Joy lists : A Home Education Essential (what they are, why you should have one and how to get started). – Taking a kinder path Self-soothing checklists : the secret to raising our mood and energy levels fast – Taking a kinder path Create a calming kit to help you cope (45+ ideas to get started right now) – Taking a kinder path