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The Physiology of Betrayal: Moving from Survival to Grounded Discernment with Dr. Monique Thompson

Discovery isn't just an emotional blow; it is a profound shock to the entire nervous system. When infidelity comes to light, your heart rate spikes, cortisol floods your system, and your brain shifts into a survival state that makes clear thinking nearly impossible. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Monique Thompson, an EMDR-trained therapist and author of the Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples. We explore why the "hot kettle" of your nervous system needs time to cool before you make life-altering decisions and why recovery is ultimately about returning to your most authentic self, regardless of whether you stay or leave. We Talk About: • Infidelity as Physiological Injury: Why the inability to "think straight" after discovery is a biological reality of the sympathetic nervous system, not a personal failing. • The "Olympics of Recovery": Reframing recovery as a daily, lifelong practice of self-compassion and amends, similar to the 12-step tradition. • Process Over Outcome: Why pressuring yourself to decide on reconciliation or divorce too quickly adds excruciating pain, and how to wait for "adaptive thoughts" before choosing a path. • Redefining Infidelity as Non-Consent: A powerful look at how betrayal is sensed and felt whenever the agreed-upon boundaries of a relationship, regardless of its structure, are violated. • Internal Parts Work: How to hold a "meeting" for the different parts of yourself, the part that is hurt, the part that is angry, and the part that wants to stay, to find your "living truth". • You are in the immediate aftermath of "D-Day" and feel an urgent, frantic pressure to make a permanent decision. • You feel "broken into pieces" and find that your experience defies standard language or explanation. • You have a high ACE score (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and recognize that your current betrayal is triggering deep-seated survival responses. • You are struggling with shame and "anti-survival thoughts," feeling that the betrayal has stripped away your sense of worth. Ultimately, healing isn't about rushing to a socially acceptable conclusion; it's about cooling your biology so you can act from a place of peace rather than panic. As Dr. Thompson reminds us, your oldest and longest companion is yourself, and you deserve a clean, honest relationship with that person first. About Dr. Monique Thompson Dr. Monique Thompson is an EMDR-trained therapist and trauma-informed life coach with over 24 years of experience. She specializes in betrayal trauma, PTSD, and couples recovery, helping clients restore nervous system safety to support clarity and accountability. She is the author of the Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples and is known for her culturally responsive, parts-based approach to healing. Dr. Thompson’s Instagram -   / drmoniquethompson   Dr. Thompson’s Private Counseling Practice - https://www.facebook.com/137813109676... Recovery Workbook for Couple - https://www.amazon.com/Infidelity-Rec... Rachel’s Booklist - ⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls... Rachel’s Newsletter - ⁠⁠https://l.bttr.to/iKgcY