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One-Sided Rules in the Swinger Lifestyle: Insecurity, Control & Communication

What happens when the swinger lifestyle starts to feel less like freedom and more like permission? In this raw and honest Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris unpack a listener confession that hits closer to home than most people want to admit: one-sided rules in the lifestyle. The listener describes a dynamic where her husband controls who she can play with, forbids single men, and ultimately restricts her from being with men at all—while she places no rules on him and genuinely wants him to have the best experiences possible. She agrees to the restrictions not because they align with her desires, but because she’s afraid of losing the lifestyle—and possibly her marriage. Adam and Pris break down where these rules often come from, how insecurity shows up early in the lifestyle, and why control is frequently mistaken for safety. They share deeply personal stories from their own journey, including early jealousy, discomfort with watching, and how reassurance, over-communication, and patience helped them evolve instead of implode. This episode isn’t about villainizing anyone. It’s about understanding that feelings are valid on both sides—and that sustainable non-monogamy requires collaboration, not permission slips. In this episode, we talk about: Why one-sided rules are so common in new swinger dynamics The difference between reassurance and restriction Why watching can be harder than participating How insecurity shows up differently for men and women The emotional cost of agreeing to rules you don’t actually want Why slowing down can save your relationship How to schedule “the uncomfortable conversation” without blowing things up If you’ve ever felt like you were compromising too much just to keep the lifestyle alive—or if you’re the partner struggling with jealousy and fear—this conversation is for you. Upcoming Events & Where to Find Us: Live SDC Webinar: February 22nd at 4:00 PM Central – Finding & Vetting Couples: From Profiles to First Meet (Without the Cringe) In Person: Club Eden DFW – Saturday, January 31st Full Swap Radio: Streaming every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central Have a confession, question, or story of your own? Visit www.beyond-monogamy.com and submit it through the Beyond Monogamy Confessional—100% anonymous. Whether you’re swinging, poly, monogamous, curious, or just trying to understand your relationship better—we’re really glad you’re here.