Discernment Counseling: For Couples On The Brink of Divorce | Steve Harris | скачать в хорошем качестве

Discernment Counseling: For Couples On The Brink of Divorce | Steve Harris |

What do you do when one partner wants to save the marriage while the other has a foot out the door? When divorce looms on the horizon but you're not completely sure it's the right decision? This powerful episode introduces a revolutionary approach for couples at this precarious crossroads. Dr. Steve Harris, professor at the University of Minnesota and pioneer of discernment counseling, reveals how this specialized approach differs from traditional marriage therapy. Unlike couples counseling, which assumes both partners want to improve their relationship, discernment counseling helps mixed-agenda couples gain clarity about whether their marriage can—or should—be saved. The conversation explores a fascinating discovery from Dr. Harris's research: approximately 30% of couples in divorce proceedings had at least one partner who didn't actually want the divorce. This finding led to the development of a structured process that helps couples thoughtfully consider three potential paths: maintaining their current situation, pursuing divorce, or committing to six months of intensive work on their relationship with divorce temporarily off the table. Dr. Harris walks us through the unique structure of discernment counseling sessions, which blend joint conversations with individual explorations. He explains how this approach creates a safe space where ambivalence is welcomed and both partners gain deeper understanding of how they've contributed to their marital problems—not just their spouse's failings. The results are impressive: about half of couples choose to work on their marriage, with approximately 70-75% successfully rebuilding their relationship. Whether you're contemplating divorce, know someone who is, or simply want to understand relationship dynamics better, this episode offers invaluable insights about making thoughtful decisions at life's most challenging relationship crossroads. As Dr. Harris reminds us, "Just because someone is thinking about divorce does not mean divorce is inevitable." Sometimes, with the right guidance, marriages on the brink can find a path to renewal. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermar... https://extension.usu.edu/strongermar... Facebook:   / strongermarriage   Facebook Marriage Group:  / 770019130329579   Instagram:   / strongermarriagelife   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com