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Your Childhood is Over..No it's Not! Why Do You Feel You Must Be Perfect Or Nobody Will Love You?

Healing from a toxic or abusive childhood is possible. When you are ready to begin, the right understanding and guidance can help you change long-standing patterns that don't serve you - and that's why I am here for you. In this Conversations With The Three Wise Tails, we meet Petal, who struggles with The 6th Bad Message - 'You must be perfect or nobody will love you.' Petal wears herself out, always trying to be the best at everything she does. Since we can never be perfect, Petal just keeps going, pushing herself to do better, to achieve more, but she ends up totally exhausted and burnt out. Blossie then explains to Petal how she learned this Bad Message and Dotty saves the day by showing Petal how to banish this Bad Message using Annette's Nip and Flip Method. Important note This channel and video are for educational and reflective purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you feel distressed or overwhelmed, please seek help from a qualified mental health professional. *** Why I Set Up This Channel & Wrote the Book of the Same Title My Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FC343T65 On this channel I talk about how our early experiences shape how we feel about ourselves, and I draw on both my professional background and my own personal experience. I had a difficult childhood. What I didn’t realise was, that my childhood would follow me into my adult life. My personal life was a catalogue of disasters. I kept getting myself into toxic and abusive situations. I have been in and out of therapy since I was 17, trying to make sense of my childhood and trying to feel better about myself. It was finally, in my forties, that I met a therapist who explained why I kept getting myself into damaging situations. At last, I had an awareness of what I was doing because I didn’t know I was recreating the toxic patterns I learned in my childhood. Doing this is a subconscious process and if this therapist hadn’t explained all this to me, I would still be getting myself into dysfunctional dynamics. If any of this sounds familiar to you, then this channel may help you. I want to help you stop repeating unhealthy patterns you learned in your childhood. I am at last, in a place, where my childhood does not control me anymore and I like myself. I was a lost cause, so, if I can do this, so can you. *** What are The 6 Bad Messages? One day I sat down and I made myself write down what I really thought about myself. I was shocked by what I saw. This is what I wrote: 1) I am not enough 2) I am responsible for others 3) I must not trust my feelings and my instincts 4) I am bad and I am wrong 5) I am alone, nobody loves me 6) I must be perfect or nobody will love me My toxic childhood left me with damaged core beliefs about myself - I call these damaged beliefs The 6 Bad Messages. These are the messages my inner critical voice was constantly replaying to me. We are not even aware we are feeding ourselves these Bad Messages - we absorb them suconsciously when we live through a difficult childhood. On this channel, I focus on explaining how we subsonsciously learn The 6 Bad Messages and most important, I show how we can stop them controlling what we think about ourselves. Do you feed yourself Bad Messages? Can you try and write them down? Are they similar to what I wrote about myself? *** Nip and Flip: On this channel, I show you how to stop feeding yourself these 6 Bad Messages using what worked for me. I named it the Nip and Flip method. *** What are Tales of Repetition Compulsion? If we had a difficult childhood, it is very likely that we will repeat toxic patterns we learnt in our childhoods through a psychological process called Repetition Compulsion. In order to make this concept easy to understand and relatable, I give examples, or Tales, of how Repetition Compulsion invades every area of our lives. I use 8 Life Categories to show this and they are: Work/Career, Family Roles, Finances, Relationships, Health/Self-Care, Learning/Achievements, Personal Goals, and Social/Community Interactions. In these Tales, I use two fictional characters, Eva and Jamie. *** Who Are The Three Wise Tails? They are my 3 dogs - Petal, Blossie and Dotty. They are a constant support to me. Full of love. They never hurt or betray me. I asked them to take part on my channel as hopefully, they will help support you too. *** Top Dog or a Cog? The Three Wise Tails love to ask you if you want to be a Top Dog or Cog? Meaning, do you want your toxic childhood to still control you, or do you want to be the one in control of your life? Welcome to my channel. I am glad you are here. Me and The Three Wise Tails really care about you. We 'woof' you! © Dr. Annette Hunter Buy the Book - Your Childhood is Over...No it's Not! https://www.amazon.ie/dp/B0FC343T65 https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FC343T65 Website https://www.repetitioncompulsion.ie/