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Experiencing Healthy Love for the First Time

Do you find romantic partnerships challenging, confusing, or overwhelming? Sarah is going to walk you through what is necessary to heal your attachment wounds and come toward more secure, healthy relationships. Although it might seem counterintuitive, the kind of connection we’re desiring often doesn’t “feel good” at first. In fact, our first experience of a secure attachment can range from being boring — to completely terrifying. The good news is that this doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is wrong for you! In this episode, you’ll learn the neuroscience behind why healthy love can initially feel overwhelming or unexciting. But the more that we step toward safe connection, the deeper and more intimate our relationships become, giving us a container where we can truly be seen, known, and chosen. Episode Highlights 00:00 Intro 01:01 Earned Secure Attachment 06:12 The Good Doesn’t Feel Good at First 08:45 Why A Secure Attachment Can Feel Boring 10:08 Love from Choice vs Love from Survival 16:33 Why A Secure Attachment Can Feel Terrifying 24:00 Leaning into a Secure Attachment 29:40 “Why Do I Feel Like I’m Going Backwards?” 30:52 Building Capacity for Vulnerability and Exposure 35:06 The Beautiful Orphaned Parts of Us 39:43 How to Know if the Lack of Attraction is Normal 46:37 Regret Is an Opportunity for Self-Compassion & Learning 52:01 Perceived Threats in Relationships 01:06:01 Even with Loving Parents, Relationships Can Be Hard Grab Sarah’s FREE Workbook: Ready to gain control over your life? Click below to download Sarah’s free trauma-informed workbook. This in-depth guide will help you to harness the power of your nervous system and unlock your desires. https://bit.ly/yms-yt-workbook Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletter Instagram -   / sarahbcoaching   Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/po... Important Keywords: Secure Attachment - A safe, stable way of attaching and relating to others in our relationships that forms in our early childhood from having caregivers who could consistently meet our needs for love, safety, attunement, and connection. Earned Secure Attachment - A secure attachment that develops through intentional self-work and healing from past patterns. It reflects personal growth and the ability to attract healthier relationships by creating internal safety for yourself and your younger parts. Neuroception - Your body's internal threat detector that is constantly assessing whether you’re in safety, danger, or life-threatening danger. It decides this by looking to a database of past information that holds all your lived experiences. Parts Work - A therapeutic process that involves connecting with and healing younger parts of yourself that hold onto past wounds. It’s a core tool for building internal safety and reshaping how you show up in relationships. Trauma Bond - A strong emotional connection formed through cycles of highs and lows in an unstable relationship. Often mistaken for love, trauma bonds are rooted in survival instincts and unresolved past pain. Protective Parts - Younger parts that learned to keep you from past emotional harm by creating walls, avoidance, control, or sabotage. Even if the past is over, these well-intentioned parts can keep you from fully engaging in healthy relationships. Capacity Building - The process of gradually expanding your emotional tolerance for safety, love, and connection. It involves learning to sit with discomfort as you adjust to the steady, healthy love you’ve always wanted.