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The five stages of grief myth leads to addiction Returned to Honor

For more than 50 years, the world has been taught a myth: that grief happens in neat, predictable “stages.” In reality, even Elisabeth Kübler-Ross herself said this was never true—she never intended the five stages to describe grief, and she never meant for them to be linear. Yet today, the myth continues to shape how we judge ourselves and others during loss, addiction, relapse, and emotional pain. In this episode of Returned to Honor, Brett breaks down what actually happens in the human heart during grief—and how misunderstanding grief leads directly to addiction cycles, emotional avoidance, spiritual disconnection, and relapse patterns. Most importantly, he teaches how to truly “mourn with those that mourn” and help others move through grief instead of getting trapped in bargaining, denial, shame, and emotional overwhelm. This deep-dive draws from Isaiah 53, the Atonement of Jesus Christ, lived experience, and Brett’s clinical grief model called the Pathway Through Grief. If you are supporting someone in addiction, facing emotional trauma, or trying to understand your own grief, this episode will give you a grounded, faith-based map back to peace. 🔍 Keywords grief stages myth, real grief process, how to mourn with those that mourn, LDS grief support, emotional healing, complicated grief and addiction, bargaining stage addiction cycle, faith-based recovery, Atonement and grief, emotional vocabulary, coping with loss LDS, spiritual recovery from addiction, grief and relapse, grief without five stages, Returned to Honor podcast, Brett Judd LCSW Chapters 00:00 — The Myth We’ve Believed Since 1969 How Kübler-Ross’s “5 Stages” were misunderstood and misapplied for decades. 01:20 — The LDS Call to “Mourn With Those That Mourn” Why true mourning is more than showing up—it’s learning to emotionally join someone in their experience. 02:25 — Why the Stages Don’t Work (And Why They Never Did) Kübler-Ross later publicly clarified that the stages were not linear and not meant for grief. 04:30 — How Society Locked Into a Wrong Model How grief myths became “standard practice” like the disease model of addiction. 06:45 — Real Grief vs. the Stages Why grief is unpredictable, cyclical, emotional, and personal—and why “doing a stage twice” is normal. 09:10 — Grief & Addiction: The Hidden Link How bargaining and denial trap people in relapse patterns. 10:00 — Isaiah 53: The Savior Who Is “Acquainted With Grief” How the Atonement becomes the foundation for emotional healing. 13:15 — “My Cross to Bear” and What It Actually Means Why we often carry burdens longer than Christ intends. 15:00 — Expected vs. Unexpected vs. Taken Losses A clearer framework for understanding different types of grief events. 17:30 — The Emotional Abyss: Where We Get Stuck Why most people fear their emotions and never learned emotional vocabulary. 20:20 — Denial, Protest, and the First Shock of Loss A personal story of sudden grief and initial emotional protest. 22:45 — Bargaining: The Birthplace of Addiction How internalized and externalized bargaining becomes addictive behavior. 26:00 — Addiction as Emotional Avoidance Why substances and behaviors become substitutes for emotional literacy. 29:00 — Why We Fear the Emotional Abyss How shame, childhood messages, and lack of emotional language keep people stuck. 33:00 — The Fruits of the Spirit as Emotional Vocabulary Love, joy, peace, long-suffering—why spiritual sensitivity requires emotional awareness. 35:15 — How to Truly “Mourn With Those That Mourn” The skill of entering the abyss with someone—without rescuing, judging, or fixing. 37:30 — Standing With One Foot in Sadness & One in Joy How holding dual emotions helps integrate loss. 40:00 — Why Bargaining Is a Parachute (Not a Stage) A metaphor describing how bargaining slows emotional free-fall. 43:00 — Moving Into Coping & Understanding How healthy coping resembles earlier behaviors—but comes without fear or denial. 46:00 — Grief Comes Back in Waves—And That’s Normal Why we cycle through emotions again as new experiences trigger past losses. 49:00 — Helping Someone Break the Bargaining-Relapse Cycle How to use naming, validation, and presence to help someone move through grief. 50:45 — Becoming a “Loss Manager” Integrating grief into your life in a healthy, spiritual, emotionally grounded way. 51:45 — Final Invitation: Emotional Healing Through Christ Why He is the only one who truly carries grief—and how to lay your burdens at His feet. Short Social / SEO Summary In this episode, Brett exposes the myth of the five stages of grief, explains how grief actually works, and teaches how to minister to those in addiction or emotional pain. Learn the Pathway Through Grief, how to “mourn with those that mourn,” and how emotional literacy prevents relapse and builds spiritual resilience. Disclaimer. This podcast has not relationship with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint. The opinions are those of the creator.