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Why People Pleasers Lose Desire and How to Reclaim It

If you have ever felt like sex is just another chore, you are not alone. Many people find themselves saying "yes" simply because saying "no" feels too hard. This isn't a character flaw. It is a survival strategy that usually begins in childhood. When you grow up learning that love is conditional, you become an expert at abandoning your own needs to take care of everyone else. By the time you reach adulthood, sex can easily become an obligation fueled by pressure. It stops being an expression of your own pleasure. Reclaiming your desire requires unlearning these old patterns. It is impossible for desire to thrive when you are stuck in a survival response like "fawn" or "freeze". The truth is that your desire may not actually be low. It is more likely that your permission to feel desire is low. Healing comes when you stop performing for others and start reconnecting with your own inner world. In this episode of The RISE to Intimacy Podcast, I dive into the origin stories of people pleasing and how they quietly reshape your sexual energy. I walk through why pushing through sex to avoid conflict creates a cycle of withdrawal. I also share practical steps to help you notice your own internal cues. From challenging the guilt of setting boundaries to finding micro-moments of pleasure, we explore how to stop self-abandoning and start wanting again. 1:37 – How childhood survival strategies quietly shape adult desire and sexual patterns 3:30 – Why sex begins to feel like work when self-abandonment becomes a habit 5:21 – The neurological states that block arousal and create shutdown 6:22 – What the pursuer–withdrawer dynamic reveals about relational disconnection 7:15 – How I help clients when this dynamic shows up in therapy 10:22 – The most important thing for people pleasers to take away from this episode 11:10 – Practical steps you can take starting today to rebuild your capacity for sexual desire Mentioned In Why People Pleasers Lose Desire and How to Reclaim It Rise to Intimacy Free 30-Minute Consult (https://www.risetointimacy.com/initia...) Leave a rating and review (http://ratethispodcast.com/rise)