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Want a simple, step‑by‑step path through the free Trauma Erase Method videos? Use this clickable course map to watch everything in order with zero stress. 🗺️ Access the FREE Trauma Erase Method course map here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/19... You can also access the videos in order for free at this site: https://centerforhealthyrelationships... RECOVER/Fine Tuning Fight/Flight/Freeze/Fawn Responses: Lesson 1 Transcript: Module 10, Lesson 1: Fine-Tuning Our Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Responses Welcome to Module 10! In this lesson, we’ll focus on fine-tuning our understanding of the subtle ways our trauma responses can manifest, especially those that might not be visible to others or even immediately noticeable to ourselves. The goal is to gain control over our mind, heart, and actions, moving away from being controlled by past trauma. Identifying Subtle Trauma Responses Trauma responses can often be subtle and internal. These are the responses that other people might not see and that you may not even recognize in yourself. Here are some examples: 1. Compulsive Behaviors: Doing something repeatedly to control feelings of fear. For example, compulsive cleaning to feel safe. 2. Compliant Behaviors: Being overly compliant, especially towards authority figures like bosses, even if it means suppressing your own ideas and needs. 3. Passive Aggressive Behaviors: Agreeing to do something but not intending to follow through or doing something behind someone's back. 4. Rebellious Behaviors: Having a strong internal reaction against something, often disproportionate to the situation. These behaviors often stem from deeply ingrained patterns formed during childhood as coping mechanisms. The Role of Shoulds Shoulds are rules ingrained in us during childhood by powerful caregivers. They might dictate how we should behave, often linked to safety and acceptance. For example: "You should always clean your plate." "You should eat with your mouth closed." These rules can become compulsive behaviors in adulthood. For instance, being overly bothered by someone eating with their mouth open because it triggers an old rule about safety and acceptance. Steps to Identify and Address Subtle Trauma Responses 1. Notice the Response: Pay close attention to your feelings and behaviors. If you feel upset or uncomfortable without a clear reason, investigate what happened right before you started feeling that way. 2. Question Your Reactions: Ask yourself: What happened right before I felt this way? What did I say to myself right after it happened? This helps you recognize if you're in a trauma response. 3. Identify Patterns: Look for recurring themes in your behaviors and feelings. Are there actions driven by strong feelings or shoulds? Are you overreacting to situations in a way that feels disproportionate? 4. Journal: Keep a journal to track these patterns. Note any strong feelings and the behaviors they trigger. This will help you identify if these actions are part of your personality or if they are responses to past trauma. 5. Work the Six Steps: Apply the six steps of the Trauma Erase Method to these subtle patterns. With practice, you'll be able to clear these out as well. Examples of Patterns to Look For Hiding or Withdrawing: Do you avoid situations or people to feel safe? Developing Arguments in Your Head: Do you often find yourself preparing for confrontations or defending yourself mentally? Over Anything Mode: Over-cleaning, over-thinking, over-apologizing, over-explaining. These are signs of trying to control your environment to feel safe. Recognizing Driven Actions Actions driven by strong feelings, such as the compulsion to do something "the right way," often indicate a trauma response. If you feel like something bad might happen if things aren't done a certain way, question whether this fear is based on current reality or past experiences. Homework 1. Notice Your Patterns: Pay attention to your behaviors and feelings in various relationships (work, friendships, self). 2. Journal: Document your observations, looking for patterns that indicate old trauma responses rather than inherent personality traits. 3. Apply the Six Steps: Work on the subtle trauma responses you identify, using the Trauma Erase Method. In the next lesson, we'll discuss subtle trauma responses specifically as they show up in relationships. See you there!