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Friday Reflection: Why Women Feel Guilty When They Rest

Why does rest still feel wrong — even when you know you need it? In this Friday Reflection episode of The Joy Shift, Kiley Suarez explores why high-achieving women often experience guilt after resting, not before. If you’ve ever: Taken a nap and immediately felt uneasy Read a book for pleasure and questioned your productivity Sat still for five minutes and felt irresponsible Struggled with self-worth tied to output This conversation is for you. For many women — especially women over 40 navigating burnout, career transitions, and identity shifts — rest feels threatening because it challenges the belief that worth must be earned through productivity. This episode gently unpacks the concept of the “achieving self” and why maintenance and rest can trigger guilt long after the moment has passed. No fixing. No urgency. Just noticing. In This Episode, We Explore: Why guilt spikes after rest, not before The connection between self-worth and productivity How high-achieving women internalize output-based value Why rest can feel unsafe for your nervous system The difference between earned rest and inherent worth A gentle reframe for experimenting with mattering without producing Why Rest Feels Wrong For many women, especially high-achievers, safety was built through productivity. Being useful Being dependable Being responsible Being needed So when you rest without earning it, your identity reacts. The “achieving self” shows up with her clipboard and asks: Was that necessary? Shouldn’t you be doing something else? That voice is not wisdom. It’s fear. It’s the part of you that learned worth through output trying to protect you from change. Maintenance Is Not Indulgence You maintain your: Car Home Relationships Career Why would you be the one thing that doesn’t deserve tending? Maintenance is not indulgence. It’s sustainability. And rest is not a reward. It’s human. A Gentle Practice This weekend, instead of conquering guilt, try experimenting with it. You might say: “I’m experimenting with mattering without producing.” No pressure to feel different yet. No urgency to solve it. Just notice the guilt. Name it. Keep resting anyway. For Women Navigating Burnout & Identity Shifts If you are: A high-achieving woman feeling exhausted Experiencing burnout in midlife Struggling with productivity-based self-worth Learning to rest without earning it Exploring life coaching for women over 40 This reflection is for you. Stay Connected Join us Tuesday for the next conversation inside The Joy Shift. No urgency. No fixing. Just noticing.