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Why You Can’t Heal While You’re At War With Yourself (with Dani Fagan)

So many people are doing all the “right” things in recovery — the tools, the practices, the protocols — and still feel stuck. In this episode, I sit down with my friend and colleague Dani Fagan to talk about the part that’s often missing: your relationship with yourself. We explore why people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-criticism, and “good girl” conditioning aren’t just personality traits — they’re nervous system survival strategies. And when those patterns turn inward, they create an internal war that keeps symptoms alive. This conversation is about self-compassion as real safety, why tools don’t land without it, and how healing begins when you stop abandoning yourself and start becoming your own safe place. If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying so hard but something still isn’t working — this episode will help you see why, without blame. CONNECT WITH DANI: 📸 Dani's Instagram – / @mytms_journey 🌐 Dani's Website – www.mytmsjourney.com LET’S BE FRIENDS: 🌐 Visit My Website – https://www.thedesignremedy.com 📸 Instagram – / positivelywhitney TIMESTAMPS 00:00 👋 Intro 01:10 Dani’s recovery story & background 04:00 Why women dominate the chronic symptom space 06:45 Good girl conditioning & people-pleasing explained 10:00 Fawning as a nervous system stress response 14:20 Why perfectionism creates internal threat 17:30 The missing piece: self-compassion 21:00 Why tools don’t work without safety 25:00 Inner critic vs. inner safety 29:00 Becoming your own safe place 33:30 Symptoms as protection, not failure 38:00 What real healing progression looks like 42:30 Practical shifts toward self-compassion 47:00 Closing reflections & hope NOTE: This content is for education and support only. Nothing shared should be taken as medical advice. Please do your own research into mind-body medicine and consult with your healthcare professional. #mindbodyhealing #nervoussystemregulation #selfcompassion #chronicpainrecovery #chronicillnessrecovery #peoplepleasing #goodgirlconditioning #somatichealing #neuroplasticpain #mindbodysyndrome #anxietyrecovery #tmsrecovery #healingjourney #chronicpain #chronicpainrecovery #backpain #pelvicpain #mindbodyconnection #interstitialcystitis #chronicpainrelief #nervoussystemdysregulation #nervoussystemhealing #chronicillness #pots #chronicfatigue