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The Scapegoat Role: Unlearning Who They Told You You Were

In toxic family systems, roles are assigned early, often without consent. The caretaker. The golden child. The truth-teller. And then there’s the scapegoat. The one who absorbs the blame. The one who carries what no one else will hold. The one labeled “too much,” “difficult,” or “the problem” — not because they are broken, but because they reflect what others refuse to face. In this episode of Born Tired: Where Survival Meets Healing, I share my personal story of growing up as the family scapegoat — how that role shaped my identity, followed me into adulthood, and quietly taught me to confuse guilt with who I was. We talk about: • How scapegoating functions in toxic family systems • What it does to a child’s nervous system and sense of self • Why truth-tellers are often punished for naming what’s real • How undiagnosed ADHD and autism compounded the harm • What it looks like to unlearn survival roles and reclaim your truth This episode is about the moment something clicks, when you realize you were never who they said you were. You were responding to an environment that needed someone to blame. Healing isn’t just about setting boundaries with others. It’s about learning to stop believing the lies that shaped your survival. If you’ve ever been called dramatic, sensitive, emotional, or difficult this episode is for you. This podcast is rooted in lived experience. In growing up in survival mode. In breaking generational patterns that were never meant to be carried forward. I speak openly about family trauma, estrangement, identity, C-PTSD, and the slow, intentional work of building a life that finally feels like yours after trauma. Every episode is created for those who carried too much, too early. For the ones who learned to stay quiet to stay safe. For the ones who became strong before they ever felt protected. Born Tired is a space for cycle breakers, truth tellers, and anyone learning how to rest after a lifetime of bracing. A place where your story is not minimized, your experience is not questioned, and your voice is allowed to exist without explanation. You don’t need to fix yourself to be here. You don’t need the right words. You just need to arrive as you are. Your voice matters. Your story matters. And you are not alone. 🤍 Support the podcast: Buy Me a Coffee — https://buymeacoffee.com/mzd5yc89kkk 🎙 Listen to the full podcast: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4f7vmOE... Website: https://borntiredpodcast.transistor.fm 📌 Follow me: Instagram: @borntiredpodcast Threads: @borntiredpodcast Substack: https://substack.com/@borntiredpodcast ⚠️ Gentle Warning: This podcast includes conversations about trauma, family dynamics, mental health, estrangement, and lived experiences. Listener discretion is advised. Credits: Written & narrated by Eirene Torres Audio production by Carlos Torres Original music by Carlos Torres Disclaimer: Born Tired is a personal storytelling podcast based on lived experience. This content is not a substitute for professional mental health care and does not provide medical or clinical advice. If you are struggling or in crisis, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or local support services.