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If / When / Then — The Happiness Trap That Keeps You Stuck

If you keep telling yourself “I’ll be happy when things change”, this episode is for you. In this full episode of Confessions of a Selfish Bitch, Cher exposes the If-When-Then happiness trap—the deeply ingrained belief that happiness depends on external circumstances, other people’s behavior, or future outcomes. This mindset quietly shapes our relationships, expectations, and emotional health—and it’s one of the biggest reasons people feel stuck, resentful, or chronically disappointed. In this episode, Cher explores: Why conditional happiness keeps you emotionally dependent How transactional relationships destroy intimacy The myth of “fairness” in adult relationships Why self-care is not selfish—it’s essential How core values and boundaries protect your nervous system Why gratitude isn’t a trend—it’s a baseline This is not a motivational talk. It’s a reality check. If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your happiness and start reclaiming it—press play. Topics Covered: conditional happiness if when then happiness relationship expectations emotional self responsibility transactional relationships self awareness and growth women and emotional labor boundaries and self respect personal responsibility happiness midlife emotional growth self prioritization Chapters 00:00 The Happiness Trap: If-When-Then Mindset 02:58 Transactional Relationships and Their Consequences 05:50 Selfishness vs. Self-Care: A Deep Dive 08:44 The Role of Expectations in Relationships 11:22 Recognizing the Common Factor in Our Happiness 14:13 Understanding Core Values and Boundaries 17:12 Shifting Focus: From Pain to Gratitude 19:49 Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness 22:49 Embracing Self-Prioritization 25:45 Final Thoughts and Call to Action