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Why Empaths Don’t Understand What a Boundary Is

Empaths often have an adverse reaction to the word “boundaries,” and this is because most empaths don’t actually understand what a boundary is. Empaths usually feel a lot of shame around boundaries, because they think they’re “bad” at them and don’t know how to hold good boundaries, or they think they have to shut people out of their lives in order to maintain good boundaries. Most empaths were raised in homes where they weren’t allowed to have boundaries, and they were given the message that having boundaries is selfish. As children, they were shamed whenever they tried to assert boundaries. This is also why most empaths experience a lot of confusion around the emotion of anger. Because of the unclear boundaries in the home when they were young, many empaths grow into adults who believe that a boundary is a big stone wall you use to keep people out of your life. They also assume that boundaries only come into play after someone has already violated a boundary or, “crossed the line.” What empaths need to learn is that boundaries can be walls, but they don’t always have to be walls. There is a different way to work with boundaries in which they can still open their hearts and their lives to different people. The problem for empaths is that they tend to always think of boundaries in terms of barriers, and because they don’t want to shut people out, they end up with unclear boundaries, or with no boundaries at all, and this is when they are targeted by narcissists and other toxic people. Subscribe to Lauren’s newsletter! https://laurensapala.com/newsletter/