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Toxic Shaming: The Psychology of Childhood Shame

What happens when a child grows up feeling like their very presence is a problem? In this video, you hear the story of Ed — a child who was not abused in obvious ways, but who grew up in emotional quiet, correction without comfort, and love that felt conditional. You see how repeated small moments — words, looks, silences — slowly shape a child’s inner world. This video explains toxic shame from a psychological perspective: Not as “I did something wrong,” but as “I am something wrong.” You’ll understand: How emotionally distant parenting can shape a child’s identity Why children internalize criticism as truth The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame How shame turns from a moment into a lifelong belief Why children learn to shrink, go quiet, and hide their needs How schools and authority figures can unknowingly reinforce shame Why toxic shame often shows up later as anxiety, depression, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or self-hatred This video is grounded in psychology and draws on affect theory, including the work of Silvan Tomkins, who explained how shame can either guide behavior or wound identity. If you grew up feeling: “I’m too much” “I don’t matter” “I shouldn’t exist the way I do” “Love is taken away when I fail” This video is for you. And if you’re a parent, teacher, or caregiver, this video helps you see how easily shame is passed down — and how it can be stopped. Shame does not build character. It builds fear. Children learn self-respect through dignity, empathy, and repair — not humiliation. 📌 This is an educational psychology video. 📌 It is not a diagnosis, but an explanation. 📌 If this resonates deeply, professional support can help. If this video helped you feel seen or understood, you’re not alone. You were never the problem.