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How to stay strong in your power

You wake up strong. You get dressed and feel good. You jump on a zoom meeting and a colleague at work says something that takes you back. Knocks your confidence a little. You get a text from your ex or a friend that triggers and stirs a little anger or emotions inside you. A sibling makes a joke at your expense that presses your buttons and triggers you in frustration. A guy (or girl) you’ve recently started dating has ghosted you and you wonder what is wrong with you. But you say nothing. Swallow your feelings. You keep calm and carry on the same way you always do. You put on that brave face, the smile only you know is fake. Show the world that you’re strong, even though you no longer feel anything but. Your day that started off so well has left you deflated and emotionally exhausted. It takes so little to change your mood, and stir up anxiety and fear. It takes effort trying to stay strong all the time. And that voice in your head never lets up: Why did they say that? Why did you let them treat you like that? What if I had done this differently? What if I had said that? Why doesn’t he like me? What is wrong with me? By the end of the day, you’re a wreck. How do you feel so weak, when everyone else sees you as strong? Why are certainty, confidence, and joy so elusive to you? This is why: you’ve given all your power away. It’s no wonder one day you feel great, and the next, you’re a hot mess. Your life, moods, and behaviour are totally at the mercy of what happens externally. And that which you have zero control over. If your happiness and wellbeing depend entirely on what happens outside of you. What others say to you, what others do. Then how you feel about yourself, your moods, and how you react to others will be determined by everyone and everything else around you too. Your self-worth is in the hands of others. And that is a vulnerable place to be. It leads you to people-please, as you seek validation. You say yes when you mean to say no, seeking approval. You hang on to friends who are toxic, whom you don’t even like, yet go out of your way to keep on side. You look for love with all the wrong people in all the wrong places. Worse, try to prove you are worthy of their love when the reality is these low-value men (or women) are unworthy of you. I was like that. I was always seen as the strong one when in truth, that was a facade. It was all fake, as I was the greatest chameleon. I shape-shifted to suit everyone else’s needs and gain their approval. Worked hard to please men who were careless of my feelings. I bent, twisted, and changed my behaviour to suit the person or situation. Until I didn’t know who I was anymore and felt vulnerable and weak. My life was out of control. Yet, the more I tried to gain control over it the more uncontrollable it became. I felt helpless, as so many women tell me they feel as well. Afraid of the future. Until I took my power back. You may appear strong on the outside. But if you’re trying to control everything that you can’t, you will feel weaker by the day. Real strength has to come first from within. Self-worth and strong boundaries are the bedrock upon which you can stand tall and in your power. Unshakeable, unmovable no matter what happens outside. And from that place of strength, you get to choose who and what you want in your life. Who is good for you and who is not. The kind of person and love that’s worthy of you. And your happiness will never depend on anyone else ever again.