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Why January Makes You Feel Like You’re Failing | Consistency, Shame & Capacity

As we head into the New Year, January has a way of quietly turning up the volume on self-criticism. Suddenly it feels like everyone else is resetting, writing resolutions, working on improving, becoming more consistent and a better version of themselves - and you’re left wondering, “What’s wrong with me?” "Why can't I stick to my resolutions - why am I like this!?" In this episode of She Is Here™, I begin with a few spoken words and then head into the episode to explore why the 'New Year, New You' talk and January in particular, can trigger so much shame, pressure, and self-blame - especially for women who are already carrying a lot. This episode is for you if: January leaves you feeling behind before you’ve even started you’re tired of setting goals that collapse into self-blame you’ve been consistent for others but disconnected from yourself you want change that comes from self-connection, not shame Rather than asking “What’s wrong with me?”, this episode invites a different question: Where has my energy already been going — and who or what have I been compensating for? This isn’t a motivational pep talk. It’s a trauma-informed, psychologically insightful reflection on New Year Resolutions and consistency, capacity, and the unseen ways you’ve already been showing up. We look at how many women aren’t “bad at consistency” at all - they’re often incredibly consistent at: holding emotional space for others being there for everyone else managing relationships anticipating needs keeping things steady keeping others happy adapting to stay safe And how that kind of consistency, while rarely acknowledged, can quietly drain capacity and make those intentions you want to set in January feel impossible. In this episode, we explore: Why January intensifies shame and self-criticism The difference between inconsistency and capacity How people-pleasing and over-functioning get mislabelled as “lack of discipline” Why shame-based change doesn’t stick Survival-based consistency vs values-led consistency Emotional labour, nervous system load, and burnout More realistic and sustainable ways to think about change She Is Here is a trauma-informed space for self-aware women who often feel they're too much and never enough - and are ready to stop forcing change and start listening inward. If this resonates, let me know in the comments. You are welcome to subscribe to continue the exploration of what might be keeping you feeling 'stuck' and how to move forward in a way that works with your nervous system safety - not against it. . 0:00 Spoken Word - January & the Pressure to Become 2:20 Why January Triggers Self-Criticism 6:10 The Myth of Consistency & Discipline 10:30 When “What’s Wrong With Me?” Is a Shame Response 14:40 Protective Parts: Giving Up or Going Hard 18:20 Personal Reflection - New Year, Old Pressure 23:00 Capacity, Not Failure 27:30 The Invisible Consistency No One Sees 32:40 When Consistency Is Really Survival 38:10 Emotional Labour & Over-Functioning 44:30 Where Your Energy Is Already Going 50:30 The Question: Who Am I Compensating For? 55:40 Doing Less vs Avoiding Accountability 1:00:20 Remembering Yourself Without Reinvention 1:06:00 Gentle Reflection and Closing Words