How to stop getting bullied: be “wise as serpents, and harmless as doves” 🐍 🕊️ скачать в хорошем качестве

How to stop getting bullied: be “wise as serpents, and harmless as doves” 🐍 🕊️

Bible quote: Mathew 10: 16 NLT Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves. 💡 One reason why you might be getting bullied is that there is an imbalance in your dove: serpent ratio. 🎯 If you are always the selected target across social contexts, you are embodying the dove 🕊️. People know that you are trusting and humble, so they know that they can treat you any which way they want without consequence. They know you are like this because you answer questions too literally, too openly, and too honestly. You also talk about your concerns and worries instead of hiding them. 🤔 What does this mean? 1) Whenever something goes wrong, you will be blamed (even if you had nothing to do with the event in question). 2) Whenever someone wants to feel dominant, powerful, and in control, they will treat you like small prey. This can look like making jokes about you all the time or asking intrusive questions that imply that something is weird or wrong with you. Their goal is to belittle you and humiliate you in front of others so that they can feel superior. 💪🏻 If you find yourself navigating situations like this, it’s time to adopt some characteristics of the serpent, without becoming the serpent. Here’s how 🐍 : The easiest way to go about this is to become “hard to catch” and “hard to see coming.” To accomplish embodying this MO, simply stop oversharing. 🛑 Stop sharing your passing thoughts (even harmless neutral ones) 🛑 Stop being open about what is going on in your life (don’t mention that you like skiing, or went to a dinner party, or spent all weekend at home. Give vague answers that don’t give much away. Even better, make their question about them. Why are they asking? Is there something they want to say? Is there something they have their eyes on and are interested in? For example: Q “What did you do this weekend?” A 1Ah, you know…this and that. But it was good. How about you?” Q “what do you think of the new colleague, the new project, etc?” A “hmmm, what do you mean?…is there anything in particular I should notice?” (They’ll proceed to tell you all kinds of things. Don’t agree. Just listen and say “hmm… interesting.”) ✅ Be vague ✅ Be curious Why? ‼️ When people don’t know everything about you, they’re more careful around you. In other words, they respect you, and people won’t target someone they respect. That is how to be a dove and a snake at the same time. 🕊️ 🐍